Saturday, September 23, 2023

"Oh... we're halfway there! Oh-oh living on a prayer!"

“Focus on the journey, not the destination.
Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it.”
Greg Anderson

It really is hard to believe that we've reached the halfway point in our program. In some ways, it feels like we've been here a really long time (so many experiences, conversations, reflections, etc.), and in other ways, it feels like we haven't been here that long - there are still people with whom I haven't talked much at all. But... here we are. 

This past week has been different. The SM and the FMI spent Monday - Friday in separate meetings. The Brothers spent the week learning about formation in their history - reading many documents and in conversation about current formation. At least, that's what I understand about what they were up to. As for the FMI... we were working on the revision of our congregational Guide to Formation.

This document, which is in the process of being revised, establishes the framework, contents, methods, and resources for the formation of new Sisters. Each day we read and looked at the guide from a different perspective (with the help of certain documents). We'd spend time in individual reflection followed by discussion in language groups and finally deciding as a group on our recommendations for edits to the guide. It was hard work, to be honest. We worked without a translator. So, we translated for each other. And while I'm the only one for whom English is her first language, we did most of our work in English (with side conversations in Spanish and French). Once we finished, the two of us who served as secretaries for the week worked on a synthesis document which the group approved, and we will submit it to our General Administration for the next stage of the updating process. 

Secretaries hard at work on the document.
I loved the fact that we were both wearing purple.
She didn't notice until I said something. 

The FMIs at work











One day, the FMIs decided to sit together at lunch. You would think we were doing something terrible with the response we received from the Brothers. So much grief! But, all in good fun...

Even with all the work, we were still smiling.


This morning, Saturday, we are back with the SM for our morning session. We're taking a look at what our recent General Chapters have to teach us about formation. 

We are free for the rest of the weekend (except for communal prayer and meals). Although, I think we have a social planned for this evening. We do not have an outing planned for this afternoon or tomorrow. So, laundry day for me, maybe? And maybe I can read something...? Or sleep?? All good options. We'll see what happens. 😊

At this point in our time here, I am reflecting on lessons I'm learning outside of our sessions. I'm learning a lot in terms of content. This is true. But there are many other things not included in our sessions. Here are a few things (in no particular order):

  • The higher the cotton content of clothing, the easier it is to wash by hand, the faster it dries, and the softer it is when dry. Why I brought so many things with polyester and spandex is an annoying mystery to me.
  • Speaking a common language does not guarantee a connection. A common language does not necessarily indicate a similar sense of humor, perspective on life, or value system. Building a connection takes work and can be exhausting.
  • My social awkwardness, which is a normal fact of life, is magnified when I'm in an unfamiliar context. It's off the charts without others who share my home context.
  • Singing in a different language is a lot easier than reading that same language out loud or understanding someone speaking. I've learned I can sing in a few languages and understand what I'm singing. But don't ask me to read the same words out loud... It's so much harder! 🤔 Why can't I use my signing brain at other times?
  • I know so little about the history of different countries on the African continent. 
  • The sun is more intense when you're closer to the equator. I know that. But I've experienced it in new ways.
  • The narratives we play in our minds make a huge difference in terms of attitude and behavior... and can either build bridges or walls between people. There is a choice involved. 
That's all for now. Now I'm off to embrace a free afternoon.

Many blessings,
Sr. N



Monday, September 18, 2023

Tell me... what does commitment look like to you?

The Lord’s call – let it be said at the outset – is not as clear-cut as any of those things 
we can hear, see or touch in our daily experience. God comes silently and discreetly, 
without imposing on our freedom. Thus it can happen that his voice 
is drowned out by the many worries and concerns 
that fill our minds and hearts.
We need, then, to learn how to listen carefully to his word 
and the story of his life, 
but also to be attentive to the details of our own daily lives, 
in order to learn how to view things 
with the eyes of faith, and to keep ourselves open to the surprises of the Spirit.
Pope Francis
Message for the 55th World Day of Vocations
2018


Recap of the week...

Last week - week 5 - was quite the week. The topic was consecrated life, which is rather broad. We looked at each of the vows. We looked at what makes religious life "radical" in our world today. We read parts of Vatican documents on consecrated life and our own Rules of Life. We spent time meditating on beautiful pieces of art each morning. We also had group presentations. Thank you to our facilitator for the week, our own Bro. Tim from New York. 

The real "meat" of the week, though, came from our group discussions about cultural context and the challenges we face in living committed lives. I heard from some of our SMs about being held at gunpoint - churches being bombed - fear of extremists - religious women being raped (not our FMIs, but women they know). Priests who have been jailed for nothing more than baptizing someone without government permission. We talked about challenges to the vow of poverty when the religious live better than the candidates' families. We shared about family and societal expectations of adult children. We talked about clericalism, the sins of the Church, and how religious are misunderstood around the world - regardless of context. 

No doubt, a heavy week. But so, so good. I have learned a great deal. And understand in a more complete way (although, not completely) what a commitment to Marianist life means for our Brothers and Sisters in different parts of the world. I will be unpacking those conversations for a while.


Weekend...

Saturday was a relaxing day. The afternoon was free, so I went to the mall across the street with two of our Brothers and had a lovely fruit smoothie. Then that evening we had a social with lots of dancing. 

On Sunday we had another excursion. This time to Lake Naivasha. What a fun day - after the heaviness of the week, it was good to be outside, laugh, walk alongside someone and chat for a bit. 


The Great Rift Valley and Lake Naivasha

The lake is about a 2.5-hour drive from our retreat center. We left Sunday after breakfast and returned about an hour before evening prayer. 

About midway through the drive, we stopped at a scenic overlook. From this point, you see a beautiful view of the Great Rift Valley. This rift extends from Jordan along eastern Africa to Mozambique. According to Brittanica.com, the "East African Rift System, also called Afro-Arabian Rift Valley, one of the most extensive rifts on Earth’s surface, extending from Jordan in southwestern Asia southward through eastern Africa to Mozambique. The system is some 4,000 miles (6,400 km) long and averages 30–40 miles (48–64 km) wide."

Because of the fossils found in the Great Rift Valley, it is believed that this area is the birthplace of humanity. Let that soak in for a minute...

If this video loads, you'll see the panorama.

With Joel, SM and Jinu, SM

With Sisters Terese and Prudence


Stunning views

With Terese


So, also there were these very aggressive vendors
at the overlook. Fr. Pablo and I resisted very well!


Crescent Island

When we arrived at Lake Naivasha we took boats out to Crescent Island. 

There are a lot of dead trees in and
near the water. We were told that it's 
because of too much rainfall -
roots were unable to get enough O2.

Cows on the shore before boarded 
the boats.

7 people per boat for the 10-minute ride

Another view of the trees

All aboard!
Another Marianist boat
 
My first time seeing pelicans in person (you'll see them, too, if this video ever loads)...


On Crescent Island...

Lots and lots of cactus

If you look closely, you can see a monkey in this tree... Super cute!

The ostriches are used to people and
not as mean as others

Antelope


Wildebeasts... Our guide called them one of the "ugly 5."
They're not what I would call cute...

More wildebeasts... We saw zebras
and impalas, too but no pics...


Return to the mainland... and hippos!

If you look closely, you can see 2 eagles.
They look a lot like the American bald eagle,
but they are African Fish Eagles

Of course, I don't know the name of this mountain

We saw many hippos... some from the island and more from the boats

I was pretty proud of the timing of this pic

Hippos, although vegetarians, can be aggressive if you get too close.
So... we were feeling just a little nervous.



Once we made it back to the mainland, we had a wonderful buffet lunch - I was so happy to have baked chicken and mashed potatoes! And then it was back to get ready for another week.

Thanks for reading this long (and delayed) blog.
Many blessings!
Sr. N